Go simply with yourself

Tomorrow begins the third week in Lent.  During this week we will journey with Mary Magdalene: Mary, the one afflicted by seven demons; Mary, the one set free; Mary, the one whose name Jesus spoke – tenderly, lovingly.

 

We are invited to simply be ourselves,

not needing an exciting lifestyle, busy schedules,

comfort foods, or approving relationships

in order to know and live out

our belovedness,

our true identity, our worth, our life tasks.

 

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The challenge and complexities of physical abuse

cover 24_1The latest issue of Child Abuse Review has just been published, with a special focus on child physical abuse. On the background of high media interest in child abuse, there is some research evidence that rates of more severe physical abuse may actually have decreased. This suggests that, perhaps, our societies are becoming less tolerant of physical violence towards children.

While we should celebrate this, there is certainly no cause for complacency. Marije Stoltenborgh and colleagues from the Centre for Child and Family Studies in Leiden have collated data from across the globe on all forms of maltreatment. They report that one in every five children globally report that they have experienced physical abuse during their childhood. While rates do vary between countries, these figures show that we still have a long way to go in protecting children from violence. One important finding from Stoltenborgh’s work, as with many other studies, is that the majority of physical abuse suffered by children never comes to the notice of professionals. Their data suggest that child protection services are only picking up one in every 75 cases of physical abuse. The implications are clear: we need to do better at recognising and responding to abuse, in providing children and young people with opportunities to tell someone about their experiences, and in supporting parents in bringing up their children without resorting to violence.

Professionals working in the child protection field do not have an easy job, and it is far too easy, when things go wrong, to blame the professionals for either not acting quickly enough, or for over-reacting and intervening inappropriately in families’ lives. In a previous paper, I have spoken of an evidence-informed approach to child protection: ‘the conscientious, explicit and judicious use of current best evidence, integrated with clinical expertise and an understanding of the context of the case, to guide decision making about the care of individual children.’ In order to do this, we need high-quality evidence from research and practice, combined with a good deal of common sense.

 

Other papers in this issue of Child Abuse Review provide some of that evidence: a case series of young children presenting with unexplained rib fractures (in which notably, all children diagnosed as having been abused had other features supporting that diagnosis, and all infants whose fractures were due to bone disease had other risk factors for that); and another case review of histories given by parents of children with abusive fractures (in all cases in their series, the accounts were often vague or uncertain, and frequently multiple accounts were given as the injuries came to light).

 

But that is where common sense and clinical skill need to come in. Child protection work is not straight forward: ‘While it may be possible to draw similarities between cases, and to highlight typical findings, the very nature of child maltreatment is such that complexity exists. While many cases may fit a classic presentation, others will not, and there can be multiple reasons for the manner in which cases present.’ I have previously argued that ‘Finding our way through this complexity requires an authoritative approach, combining a thorough understanding of the circumstances and context of the case, with an appraisal of the evidence base, the practitioner’s own expertise and experience, and the humility to work in partnership with children, their parents or carers, and other professionals.’

 

To see the contents and abstracts of this issue of Child Abuse Review, click here.

 

 

 

Go simply with your possessions

Judas, the Betrayer.  Not your usual subject for a series of reflections.  But perhaps Judas wasn’t so dissimilar to the rest of us.  Was he just an enthusiastic radical, looking for something new, longing for justice and liberation?

 

Tomorrow starts the second week in Lent.  As we spend this week journeying with Judas,

Let’s commit ourselves to inner and outer simplicity,

letting go our ‘right’ to self-fulfillment

while our façade covers up our poverty of spirit;

setting aside our ‘right’ to affluence

while there are still those who live in abject poverty.

 

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Ash Wednesday: Go simply in belief and faith

Tomorrow is Ash Wednesday, the start of Lent.

In the first week of our Lent meditations, we journey with the Apostle Thomas.

Doubting Thomas.

Honest Thomas.

The apostle who wasn’t afraid to express his doubts, his uncertainties, the dilemmas of belief.

Over this week we will explore some of our own doubts and questions, and live with these frustrations.

And we will ask Jesus for the grace of peace.

Click here to go to this week’s Lent meditations.

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Go simply with yourself

Tomorrow begins the third week in Lent.  During this week we will journey with Mary Magdalene: Mary, the one afflicted by seven demons; Mary, the one set free; Mary, the one whose name Jesus spoke – tenderly, lovingly.

 

We are invited to simply be ourselves,

not needing an exciting lifestyle, busy schedules,

comfort foods, or approving relationships

in order to know and live out

our belovedness,

our true identity, our worth, our life tasks.

 

Click here to go to this week’s meditations

 

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Child abuse in fact and fiction: Seminar notes from ethics and children’s literature event, Warwick University, 2015

 

Peter Pan

All children, except one, grow up.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So said JM Barrie in the opening words of Peter Pan. Only it isn’t true. The reality is that far too many children never get the opportunity to grow up; or have to grow up before their time; or find that childhood isn’t the wonderful experience portrayed by Peter Pan, and all because of abuse or neglect suffered at the hands of their parents.

 

james 1Right from the beginning they started beating him for almost no reason at all. They never called him by his real name, but always referred to him as ‘you disgusting little beast’ or ‘you filthy nuisance’ or ‘you miserable creature’… His room was as bare as a prison cell.

 

Roald Dahl. James and the Giant Peach, p8.

 

 

victoria climbieThe food would be cold and would be given to her on a piece of plastic while she was tied up in the bath. She would eat it like a dog, pushing her face to the plate. Except, of course that a dog is not usually tied up in a plastic bag full of its excrement.

Neil Garnham, QC – Victoria Climbié Inquiry

 

Victoria spent much of her last days, in the winter of 1999–2000, living and sleeping in a bath in an unheated bathroom, bound hand and foot inside a bin bag, lying in her own urine and faeces. It is not surprising then that towards the end of her short life, Victoria was stooped like an old lady and could walk only with great difficulty

He found the cause of death to be hypothermia, which had arisen in the context of malnourishment, a damp environment and restricted movement. He also found 128 separate injuries on Victoria’s body, showing she had been beaten with a range of sharp and blunt instruments. No part of her body had been spared. Marks on her wrists and ankles indicated that her arms and legs had been tied together.

Child abuse is a reality, an unimaginable reality, for many children. A reality that goes way beyond the imagined worlds we see in children’s fiction.

 

These notes are from a seminar I gave recently on child abuse and children’s literature.  I’d be really interested in any views/comments on the issues raised.

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February 10th

‘I am the resurrection and the life.’

David’s words boomed down the church.

David’s words?  Jesus’ words?

‘I am the resurrection and the life.’

His powerful voice seemed to fill every corner of the building, rising to the medieval doom painting above us, echoing round the massive stone pillars, projecting up to the towering spire and forward to the far east window, where a stained glass Jesus hung on a stained glass cross.  The author of those words hanging, lifeless before us.

He only said the words once, and yet they reverberated round and round, floating over the heads of the motionless, shimmering blur of people who filled the pews; drumming through me so that I didn’t hear the other words that followed as we followed David down the aisle.

‘I am the resurrection and the life.’

I had heard those words so many times before.  As a child in Sunday School, hearing the wonderful tale of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead.  Sitting in so many services as the words of the gospel were read.  ‘This is the gospel of Christ.’  ‘Thanks be to God.’  Even at funerals – of friends and family members.  But never like this.  As a teenager I had sung those words, thoughtlessly clapping an inane beat after each line of one of our favourite youth group songs: ‘I am the resurrection’ (clap) ‘I am the life’ (clap-clap, clap-clap) ‘he who believes in me shall never-er die’ (clap, clap-clap).  Oh how we’d loved those Saturday evenings, full of fun, untouched by the reality of this world’s pain.  Joining in, keen to be part of the crowd, inspired with the youthful enthusiasm of a shared faith that would carry us through thick and thin.  Oblivious to the real impact of those seven words.

‘I am the resurrection and the life.’

Words of hope.  Words of immense, grave-shattering power.

Words of utter despair.

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Go Simply: Reflections for Lent

Sandals croppedA series of Lenten reflections to attend to our doing and being, the active and contemplative

 

 

 

 

Traditionally, there are 40 days of Lent, from Ash Wednesday to Holy Saturday (not counting the Sundays of Lent), which means February 18 to April 4 in 2015.  Starting from Ash Wednesday, 18th February, we will be posting a series of reflections for the seven weeks of Lent.  Each week explores a different aspect of simplicity, and focuses on someone, or some people who featured in Jesus’ life.

These reflections take the form of a simple liturgy for the week, with five readings to help you be still in God’s presence: to pause; to listen; to be.

 

The seven weeks

Week One: Go simply in your belief – Thomas’ Journey

Week Two: Go simply with your possessions – Judas’ Journey

Week Three: Go simply with yourself – Mary Magdalene’s Journey

Week Four: Go simply in your lifestyle – With the Bethany Family, Mary, Martha and Lazarus

Week Five: Go simply within your culture – Nicodemus’ Journey

Week Six: Go simply in your vocation – With Mary, Jesus’ Mother

Week Seven: Go simply in your spirit – With Joanna and the women who accompanied Jesus